Personal Life Issues

Lori Needs A New Career For Her Anxiety And Histrionic Traits

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 08 Jun 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Lori was a school counselor for ten years, and hated every minute of it. Now she asks my advice for career opportunities for a hyper alert, dramatic person. I gave my answer. Does your career suit your strong traits?

Linda Wants Her Traits To Work For Her And Asks How?

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 31 May 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Linda is divorced and works part time. She hates her job and is trying to find something else, but so far no luck. She's creative, but thinks people view her as weird and ugly. She wants to put her creativity to work for her, but how? She doesn't like to deal with people because she thinks they don't like the way she looks. I give her my thoughts; what are yours?

Lucas Wants To Live As A Hermit

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 20 May 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Lucas is in college, has never had friends or a girlfriend..... and likes it that way. He wants to live a solitary life, free from other people. His parents, on the other hand, want him to be social, have friends and even took him to a shrink to get things straightened out.

Does Gender Make A Difference?

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 05 Mar 2013 06:00:00 GMT

As Kevser read "Better Than Normal”, she thought I was a woman.... until she visited my website. Do you think a message changes related to whether the messanger is a man or woman?

Al Wants To Know The Key To Finding Happiness

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 26 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Al struggles with happiness. He's a successful orthodontist, has a lovely family, lives in a beautiful home, tries different hobbies whenever he pleases..... yet happiness eludes him.

Mark Compares 'Belbin Team Roles' To 'Better Than Normal'

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 09 Oct 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Mark compares Europe's 'Belbin Team Roles', which uses individual strengths in the workplace, to my 'Better Than Normal', which uses individual personality traits to better individual lives.

Daisy Asks Why Did God Allow Her To Survive An Attempted Abortion

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 03 Oct 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Daisy is 22 and a third child. The first two were wanted, while she was a surprise. Her parents attempted to abort her, but she survived. She asks why God would allow this to happen, if children are gifts from God. I attempt to answer a very difficult question.

Lisha Doesn't Trust Herself To Find A Healthy Relationship

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 02 Sep 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Lisha is 46 and a mother of three. Successful yet confused, she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and had moments of intense energy and racing thoughts followed by bouts of depression. She's been in unhealthy relationships and now questions her judgment of the men she chooses. What do you think -- is there a way to make better life decisions when one has a mood disorder? Can medication allow a person to think more clearly or does it make that part worse?Everything else is good, she just wants better boyfriends.

Keith Compares 'Better Than Normal' To Mowing The Grass

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 20 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Keith recently penned an article, likening 'Better Than Normal' to cutting the grass and mental health. Do you feed your OCD by manicuring your lawn? Or do you enjoy drought and freezing weather so the grass takes care of itself? Keith takes a different approach to a weekly chore. A fun read.

At 50, Marie Still Hasn't Found Her Life's Calling

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Marie just finished reading my book, 'Better Than Normal' and shares that after raising her children and turning 50, she still hasn't found the job that she enjoys and makes her feel complete. She asks for help. Thoughts?

Phil Cannot Look Others In The Eye

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 20 Jun 2012 18:00:26 GMT

Phil is a bartender with a big problem. He finds he can no longer look his customers in the eye! He has become self-conscious about this, and obsesses about it every day. Now he's diverting his eyes, feels shifty and wants to be able to look his customers in the eye again and just talk normally. He asks what's wrong, and how can he overcome this?

Chuck Wonders If He's Normal

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 18 May 2012 18:00:18 GMT

Chuck asks if it's possible to have high scores on all 8 traits in my book 'Better Than Normal'. Have you taken the quizzes? How do you score?

Mike Scores High For Five Traits

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 15 May 2012 14:00:57 GMT

Mike scored high on five of the traits in 'Better Than Normal'. He liked my book, BUT says I don't give enough specific advice to those with the traits and combos of traits. He also thinks words can hurt, and says we should never say "disorder" rather, "condition". Do you agree that words carry that much power?

Nicole Is Miserable Because She Doesn't Want To Be Shy

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 11 May 2012 22:00:19 GMT

Nicole is a 20 year old college student who is shy. At home she imagines herself being outgoing and having a passion for life and ambitious. In reality, her shyness is holding her back. She's getting tired of pretending to be happy, and asks what she can do to overcome both, her shyness and her perfectionism. What would you advise her?

Harry Wonders About Compensating For His Shyness

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 08 May 2012 06:00:22 GMT

Harry, at the age of 70, read my book and finds he is a mix of the shy and magical thinking traits. He asks about compensating for shyness, so he doesn't feel like he's taken for granted. He wants to push back and asks my thoughts on compensation for shyness. What do you think?

Rue, The Drama Queen, Scores A 10 On The Histrionic Scale

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 22:00:47 GMT

Rue is often called the Drama Queen by her friends. She took my eight trait survey and discovered she's a 10 on the Histrionic/Dramatic scale! She tells her friends that this is who she is. She asks how to be herself without alienating her friends. Do you know?

Sue Ann Doesn't Want To Be Shy

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 06:00:23 GMT

Sue Ann views her shyness with disgust, and therefore puts herself in uncomfortable situations to try to become more outgoing. But when there, she doesn't want people to think she's stuck up, but she has a difficult time talking to others she doesn't know. She keeps trying, but it's not working and she's feeling worse. Do you have advice for her?

Dr. Smith Is Glad He Has Low Reviews

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 06:00:10 GMT

Dr. Smith states that the more a patient is dissatisfied with his medical care, the greater the chance he's getting better health care. Read this for a different perspective. Any thoughts?

Katherine Is Shy And This Is Causing Problems at Work

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 06:00:02 GMT

Katherine is working, and it is up to her to engage with the public. She's not very good at it, because she's on the shy side. She's wondering how she can get over this before it ruins her employment. What would you tell her to do?

Richa Worries Something Bad Will Happen

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 06:00:26 GMT

Richa is a senior university student, who already has employment lined up. And yet, she cannot shake the thought that something bad is going to happen. She also questions why we die and what happens to us after death. Try as she might, she cannot find peace. Would you like to share your thoughts on this subject?

Joli Has Never Been Accepted

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 14:00:26 GMT

Joli is 43, and for her entire life she has been misunderstood by others. No one holds her in high regards, no one gives her the benefit of the doubt and no one gives her the respect she gives others. She has always wanted to love intensely and be loved just as passionately, but has never had that opportunity. She's sensitive and cries easily, and this has hurt her to the core. She's afraid her time is running out since her health is poor, and now she's losing hope. Is there some comfort you can give to her?

Matt Gets Anxious Returning To Work After Vacay

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 12 Feb 2012 06:00:46 GMT

Matt is a teacher who does not like change. Any time he has extended time off from work, he suffers from anxiety and depression when it's time to go back to work. He takes medication but it just doesn't seem to help. He loves his job and feels lucky to have it. He wants to know how to adapt better when returning to work. Do you ever experience the same thing?

Kiana Wants The Secret To Happiness

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 06:00:56 GMT

Kiana is 41, and cannot remember being happy. Not good in sports or school, she was relentlessly teased and didn't fit in. She asks why has this happened to her? What did she do to deserve this treatment? She now wants to turn her life around, to be happy, and she wants to know how. Do you have some advice for her?

Kecia Hates Being Black

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 22:00:38 GMT

Kecia went to a predominately black high school and did not fit in at all. It was because of this experience that she hates being black. When she thinks of black people, she thinks ghetto, and she thinks she's better than that. She feels trapped and wants advice.

Jonathan Wants A Show On HIV Prevention

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 22:00:12 GMT

Jonathan is a 23 year old gay male involved with an HIV infected partner. He wants to educate and inform America about the progress that has been made with the diagnosis and treatment of this disease. He wants to do a TV show on this.