Parenting

Melissa Is Tired Of Being The Scapegoat Of The Family

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Melissa and her father have been at odds for years. She tells it like it is and is very upfront confronting issues, while he is very secretive. He also drinks too much. He never owns up to his own problems, and prefers to make her the scapegoat -- for everything!

Anna's Father Says She Is A Loser

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 05 Feb 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Anna's father always told her she wasn't good enough, that she was a loser and constantly negatively compared her to others her age. Of course, she now thinks she's not good enough for anything.

Tia Is Physically/Verbally Abused By Her Mom

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Tia has been verbally and physically abused by her mother for years. She has been having thoughts of harming her mom to make it stop.

Emily Thinks Her Abusive Childhood Has Ruined Her Life

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 18:00:58 GMT

Emily survived a horrific, abusive, unspeakable upbringing, to the point of never being able to have a child of her own. Now in her late 40's, she thinks it's so unfair and she wonders if she has been damaged for life. She wonders if her childhood was just too abusive to overcome and if one day she will have something to smile about. She hopes that one day her life might be good. What do you think? Is there hope?

Ella's Daughter Will Not Forgive Her

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 04 May 2012 06:00:33 GMT

Ella was an addict who had two little girls. One day she left her girls with so-called friends while she got her fix. When she returned, the oldest, aged 3 at the time, had been raped. Authorities removed the girls and now, 15 years later, she's finally clean. Her oldest daughter forgave her, but the youngest refuses. She wants her daughter back -- what else can she do?

ST Left Her Children With Her Childhood Abuser

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 14:00:52 GMT

ST was abused relentlessly as a child by her father. As an adult, she needed medical attention which required her to go out of town. She left the children with her parents, never thinking her father would molest her young children. Now two of the children are victims of sexual battery and she cannot find free or reduced counseling for her children. Her GP has her on Prozac because she's so depressed, and some of her family members blame her for all the family troubles. Her life is getting more difficult by the minute -- she needs help. What would you tell this distraught mom?

Joshua's Father Has Pushed Him Away

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 22:00:49 GMT

Joshua was raised in an abusive home. Now grown, with a family of his own, his father's actions are still fresh in his memory. He still thinks about the abuse and this is affecting his current wife and son. Also, his work has suffered. He has decided he longer wants to live this way, and asks what he can do to put the past behind him?

Diane Is Writing A Book About Her Molestation - By Her Father

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 22:00:12 GMT

Diane is 45 and a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. She suffered molestation at the hands of her father between the ages of 6 to 14. It took years, but she now has a decent relationship with her parents, and though they are wealthy, she and her husband struggle week to week. She thinks she deserves some of the wealth, and is writing a tell-all book about her abuse. Her parents are celebrities in their community, so I ask, what do you think of her book? Does she publish or not?

Mya Reconnected With Her Father In A Most Unfortunate Way

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 06:00:52 GMT

Mya's father left home when she was only 5. At 16, she found him, and made the plane trip to his country. He met her at the airport, and she was so happy to reconnect with her father, then he had sex with her the first night, telling her it was a custom in his country and wasn't a big deal. She remained with him for over a year, admitting she was in love with him, but so hurt and confused as well. Now, 20 years later, she wonders why he did that and whether it ruined her for life. Thoughts?

Because Of His Past Abuse, G Hesitates To Discipline His Children

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 14:00:59 GMT

G hates his father for the cruel way he beat him as a child. Now a father himself, he finds that he cannot stand the thought of disciplining his children, because he doesn't want them to hate him. He associates discipline with cruelty, so he lets his kids do most anything and yet now he thinks they are starting to hate him anyway. Ideas for G?

Amber's Father Molested Her Daughter

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 14:00:18 GMT

Amber, an only child, was raised by her father. Now, her beloved father has been convicted of molesting her only daughter. She's dealing with pain, anger and guilt, and just wants her dad and her old life back. She wants it to be a misunderstanding, but forensic evidence says otherwise. She asks how to get over these crazy feelings of both loving, yet hating her father.

Yolanda Cannot Let Go Of Her Childhood Abuse

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 14:00:19 GMT

Yolanda was molested by a cousin when she was 13. She's now 41 and is still tormented by the lack of concern her father showed. In fact, he still has a relationship with his nephew. She feels slighted, unloved and worn out. How can she get over this?

Help! My Nephews Are In Danger!

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 16:00:47 GMT

Our hearts are breaking and we know in the end we will be a family that won't be able to say, "we didn't see the signs," because the reality is, the signs have hit us in the face.

Will I Ever Get Past My Father's Abuse?

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 20:00:32 GMT

This all began when my father died in 2005. He was both a mental and a physical abuser. I have night terrors because at age 7, he locked me in a closet and literally threw away the key.

Was My Friend's Son Molested?

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 10:05:24 GMT

She refuses to leave her son alone with the step-father at all costs, but just the thought that it might have happened and could still be happening enrages my friend greatly.

Overcoming Anger Issues From A Long Ago Hurt

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 12 May 2011 02:00:00 GMT

The residual from past abuse is that I still have anger issues.

How Do I Get Over Feeling Worthless?

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 11:00:38 GMT

My childhood was a disaster. My father was an alcoholic who was violent and verbally abusive to my mom and me. He was very dominating. I couldn't develop my social skills, as I was not allowed to interact with neighbors or other people.

Do I Tell My Fiance About My Childhood Sexual Abuse?

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 02 Apr 2011 21:01:12 GMT

No father could ever tolerate this, but he never yelled back. I think he was afraid I would tell someone what he was doing. I suffered from depression, crying every day.

I Feel Like I'm A Screwup

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 21:00:04 GMT

Now I'm sitting with so many mixed feelings, anger, guilt ... sometimes it feels like I don't want to be anymore.

How Can I Get Over Past Abuse From My Father?

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 09:06:17 GMT

My father had alcoholic issues and often beat me.

I Lost My Children Because I Reported Abuse

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 26 Feb 2011 21:00:30 GMT

I had a terrible fall in June, and it has ruined my life.

My Grandson Is Being Neglected By My Daughter

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 13:54:58 GMT

Over the past year, she has made really bad decisions for a person of her age and background, and is now living with a known drug user and dealer.

My Little Girl Was Molested!

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 10:11:56 GMT

We found out through the police reports two years after the fact that our daughter was sexually molested.

My Son is Being Bullied

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 06 May 2010 09:10:20 GMT

For ten years I have been dealing with bullying, which resulted in my children being harassed, my home being vandalized, eggs thrown at my car, rocks thrown at and through home windows, garbage in my mailbox and things I cannot even mention here.

Should I Leave My Children Alone With An Abusive Grandmother?

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 12:27:06 GMT

Where Do Loyalties Lay When In Doubt?