Personal Life Issues

Jane Is Suspicious Of Others

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Jane's past is riddled with pain, sorrow and backstabbing. Still, she considers herself positive, friendly and loyal -- on the surface.

Michelle Needs To Fall In Love

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 17 Mar 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Michelle is a 34 year old plus-sized woman who has a strong faith in God but is lonely. She never dated in high school or college, but didn't worry about it because she was too busy. Now she'd wants deperately to fall in love and have a family.

Justin's Non Stop Flirting Ruins All His Relationships

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:00:00 GMT

Justin is a 50 year old male and cannot seem to maintain his relationships. He was married twice, and even though his wives still say they love him, they could no longer tolerate his blatant flirting. He's getting up in age now and desperately wants a relationship that will last.

How Does Kim Learn To Trust Again?

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 31 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Kim left her husband when her ex repeatedly cheated and lied. Now, a year later, she questions the actions of her present boyfriend. She suspects he may be cheating as well, because when he receives calls, texts or is on Facebook, he turns his phone away from her.

Dina Can't Overcome Her Brother's Death

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 18 Dec 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Dina is 23, and three months ago her little brother died in a car accident. She took care of the arrangements as well as her mother and siblings during that rough time. Now she's depressed and anxious, fighting with her fiancé and doesn't feel like going to work.

Jess's Boyfriend Says Her Vagina Is Weird

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 13 Dec 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Jess is 25 and has been with her boyfriend for about a year. He broke up once, saying he needed time. Now they're together again, but things are not good. He insists she slept around while they were apart, even though she was home, crying. He insults her physical appearance constantly and calls her a whore. He even says her vagina is deformed. She works a full time job plus a part time job, while he is TOTALLY unemployed. She's about to get her degree, while he never completed high school or got a GED.

Meggie Asks: If A Man Is Truly In Love, Can He Be Attracted To Another?

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 17 Oct 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Meggie asks if a man is in love, can he find other women beautiful and attractive? If a man claims to love another, yet becomes aroused if he sees cleavage or nudity -- does that mean he doesn't truly love his mate?

Barbara's Mother-In-Law Is Spreading Lies

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 07 Oct 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Barbara's mother-in-law is making her life miserable. She spreads rumors about her to others via Facebook, refuses to acknowledge her new baby -- saying she will NEVER love him -- because she doesn't approve of his name, and when she takes their older boy for a few days, he is returned with a bad sunburn, cuts and bruises. She and her husband have now moved away due to this, but the in-law continues to relentlessly spread lies about her and the family on Facebook.

Scott Fantasizes About His Mother

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Scott is 25 and is consumed about sexual fantasies involving his mother. It has gotten to the point that he must fantasize about her in order to have sex with other women. He wonders if he's abnormal or mentally unstable and how he can control this.

Shelley Is 42 And Still Waiting For Her Soulmate

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Shelly is 42 and still single. She's been hoping to find her soulmate, but so far the guys she likes aren't looking to settle down, while the guys who want her are just all wrong. She's asking if there's something she can do to change her luck.

Safae Feels Her Life Is Over At 19

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 13 Sep 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Safae is 19 and miserable. She's not as pretty as her sister or her cousin, and has never been on a trip. She spends her days in her room with her laptop, seeking others. She had an online relationship, but all the guy wanted to do was make love over the Internet. She asks for our advice.

Lisha Doesn't Trust Herself To Find A Healthy Relationship

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 02 Sep 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Lisha is 46 and a mother of three. Successful yet confused, she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and had moments of intense energy and racing thoughts followed by bouts of depression. She's been in unhealthy relationships and now questions her judgment of the men she chooses. What do you think -- is there a way to make better life decisions when one has a mood disorder? Can medication allow a person to think more clearly or does it make that part worse?Everything else is good, she just wants better boyfriends.

Madeleine's Mother Disapproves Of Her Boyfriend

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Madeleine is 26 years old and is dating for the first time. She has always lived with her parents and grandparents and has always been obedient. Her mother disapproves of her boyfriend. Says he's ugly, lazy and cannot provide for her. Her mother, while caring for her father after his stroke, has emotionally blackmailed her, saying if she moves out it will kill her grandpa. She wants to move out, but neither she nor her boyfriend work, as he is supported by his own mother. How does your solution compare to mine?

Joshua Has No Confidence

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Joshua isn't as confident as he'd like to be. He can't speak in front of large groups without feeling nervous. He met a woman online, but she wants her space. He wonders if he should play sports again and wonders if he should transfer to another school. He just isn't sure of anything. Thoughts?

When Pissed-Off Discovered Her Boyfriend Was Married She Got Even

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

When Pissed-Off discovered her boyfriend was married she got even.

JJK Says He's Just Too Super Hot And Sexy

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 19 Jun 2012 06:00:21 GMT

JJK, a 26 year old international model, says he's super hot and sexy. He asks if he should take up the offer of older women who want to set him up in style. He has a hard life, folks. Every girl who meets him wants to hook up, and people just don't realize how difficult it is to be a gorgeous guy. He asks for advice. Let's hear yours.

Kriti Has Lost Herself

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 13 May 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Kriti was engaged to someone she didn't love. Devastated, she kept to herself. She then dated someone else because she was tired of being a hermit, but he married someone else. She lost her two best friends because of the lies she told them, and now she has lost her whole sense of self. She doesn't know who she is or what she stands for anymore. Do you have words of advice for her?

Daniel Fears He Will Never Have A Relationship

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 08 May 2012 22:00:50 GMT

Daniel is a 32 year old man with major self esteem issues. He suffered from depression but overcame that. He admits he's a virgin, and fears he will never have a relationship because of his fantasies about wanting to be with a dominating woman who abuses and humiliates him. And he gets panic attacks just thinking of being naked in front of someone. What words of encouragement would you offer this man?

Edward Worries About Sexual Performance

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 07 May 2012 14:00:06 GMT

Edward is a 24 year old male. Two years ago he tried to have sex with his girlfriend. It was the first time for both, and things did not go very well. Eventually he lost his erection. He saw a doctor who put him on two different medications, the first of which worked, the second has done nothing in 7 days. He still hasn't had sex, but he's afraid and obsessed that this problem will follow him indefinitely. What do you think?

Ali Can't Make Himself Ask Girls Out

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 22:00:15 GMT

Ali has read book after book about how to overcome shyness with the opposite sex. He reads, understands, and then will walk up to a girl and then ... bam! He freezes. He's had this problem most of his life, and wants to how to overcome it and how to finally get a date.

Marcia's Friend Feels He's A Victim Of Life

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 06:00:07 GMT

Marcia and her sister are worried about their friend. He's 40 and has two older sisters; all of them unmarried. They still live at home and take care of their sick father. This friend cooks, cleans, shops and works full time, all while caring for his father. He feels he cannot have a life until his sisters get married, but they never go out and never date. Marcia and sis try to take him out but he refuses, and he also refuses to see a doctor. He also refuses medication. What would you say about this sad situation?

Rob Blames His Unhappiness On His Weight

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 06:00:35 GMT

Rob is overweight, 41 and afraid life is passing him by. He would like a relationship and possibly children, but the only time he feels good about himself is when he's at work. He knows he needs to lose about a hundred pounds, and thinks he's not good enough for anyone else. Is there something you'd like to tell him?

Ann Looks At Her Life, And Is Afraid This Is It

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 24 Mar 2012 14:00:32 GMT

Ann looks back at a time when she was really happy and in a relationship -- it was when her children were much younger. Now her daughter is a mother and her son has become an abusive man. She looks at her life -- a good job and good friends, but she's alone. Retirement will be coming in a few years, and she's concerned what her life we be like when that time comes. Thoughts?

How Does Karen Put Her Prostitution Behind Her?

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 02 Mar 2012 14:00:31 GMT

Karen supported herself by offering her services via prostitution on Craig's List in order to put herself through college. Now she's a graduate and a professional within her field of study, a success to everyone -- except herself. She can't seem to put her past behind her. She feels she's an awful person and is not happy. Advice for this young woman?

Shakti Wants A Better Life

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 18:00:31 GMT

Shakti is a 25 year old man who faced an abusive and troubled childhood. Witnessing his mother's abuse at the hands of his father, being sexually violated himself as a youngster and being bullied in school were common for him. He feels it was so unfair and now he wants to know how he can lead a normal life. Do you have some kind words for him?