Relationships

Radhika's Husband Is An Animal; His Mother A Bitch

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 07 Jun 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Radhika has been married for two years, and says her husband has never loved her. He beats her -- and his mother knows about it -- yet does nothing to stop it and doesn’t even seem to care.

Cassandra's Husband Threatened Her Life Is She Leaves

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 02 May 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Cassandra has been married for 31 years to a man who threatens to hurt her, throws objects at her, threatens to kill her and himself and smokes marijuana to the point where he is fried.

Ivy's Husband Says He Will Kill Her If She Leaves

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 05:30:00 GMT

Ivy has been married for 20 years. She has always felt her husband was cheating, but he always had a quick explanation for any questionable behavior. That is, until FINALLY he admitted to many affairs. Now he says to be a Christian and forgive him.

Anu Feels Trapped By An Abuser

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 12 Apr 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Anu is a 21 year old female. When she cheated on her boyfriend, he broke up with her and eventually married someone else. She now dates someone who ridicules her, bites her and threatens to tell everyone about her sexual activities and that she is a slut.

Will Nicky's Boyfriend Follow Through With His Threats If She Leaves?

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 31 Mar 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Nicky is in a two year relationship with an abuser. He drained her bank account, made her to quit work, moved her away from family and friends and now tells her if she EVER tries to leave-- he will kill her.

Emy Can't Decide Whether To Stay Or Leave

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 18 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Emy married a man she met on the Internet a couple of years ago, and moved to his country. Married for almost a year, he has started hitting her and spits in her face when they argue. She's pregnant, and returned to her home country to have the baby. She missed him so much, she returned with the daughter. He says he she wants to leave again, she can go, but the baby remains.

Simon Asks How To Get Over An Abusive Relationship

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Simon has been with his girlfriend for quite some time, and she became physically abusive thinking he cheated on her, which she denies. They broke up over this, but got back together, and now the abuse continues, no matter what he does or says. Though he knows he needs to move on, the fact that she is his first girlfriend hurts and he can't totally let go.

KK Can't Go On After Her Breakup

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 10 Nov 2012 06:00:00 GMT

KK and her boyfriend have been in an on-again, off-again relationship for 7 years and have a 4 year old daughter. He has hit her on numerous occasions, the last time she was seriously injured. They decided on a three month reprieve, but now that the three months are up, he doesn't want to be with her. She's devastated and can't sleep, can't work and no longer wants to live.

SM Attracts Abusive Men

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 08 Sep 2012 14:00:00 GMT

SM was physically abused by her first husband. She got out, but now at age 41 she is in her second marriage, which is emotionally and mentally abusive. She wants to leave, but she can't because she has a child.

Emily's Boyfriend Has Become Physically Abusive

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 25 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Emily and her boyfriend have been together three years and have an eight month old son. Her boyfriend constantly blames her for having the baby, and tells her she should have had an abortion. He calls her stupid and a bitch and it's wearing away her self esteem. Recently he grabbed her by the throat and threw her to the ground. She says she wants to be with him because they have a life together, but she doesn't have the energy for what's happening. What would you advise her?

Muhammad's Wife Beats Him

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Muhammad's 28 year old wife loves him, but when she's angry she beats him and throws things at him. Is this any less devastating than a man who abuses his wife? He tries to soothe her anger, but it's not working. He is embarrassed to admit this, but wants help. What would you tell him?

Russ's Ex Falsely Accused Him Of Domestic Violence

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 12 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Russ's third wife had never been married before. They fell in love and got married. He thought they were fine, until he found out she was telling family and friends he was abusing her. When she filed for divorce, the courts provided the restraining order because they believed her lies. She took money from his accounts, hacked into his business computer, and says she lost all respect for him because he fell in love with her. He asks why he still can't get over her, saying he would take her back today if she would agree. Thoughts?

Summer's Four Year Old Abusive Relationship Is Her First. How Does She Leave?

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Summer has been in a committed relationship for four years, and ever since it started all she ever wanted was to get out of it. She hates the way her boyfriend treats her, the kind of person he is and how he thinks. He's been both emotionally and physically abusive as well. BUT, she doesn't know how to end it because when she tries, he threatens her. Her parents don't know what's going on, but worry because she has lost so much weight and she's so pale. She asks me how to leave this monster. Thoughts?

Nancy Wants A Divorce And Asks How To Proceed Despite Her Fear

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 06:00:34 GMT

Nancy has been married for 11 years. Her husband has controlled, threatened and lied to her repeatedly, and she has lost all respect for him. She wants a divorce, but is scared he may go crazy and get violent. She wonders the best way to proceed. Should she plan a secret escape to avoid any possible violence? Thoughts?

Helen Is Not Sure If Her Mate Is Appropriate

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 18:00:35 GMT

Helen is 29 and a survivor of a violent relationship. She finally met and fell in love with a 45 year old man whom she deeply trusts. However, he's the grandfather of her brother's girlfriend's son. The relationship is still secret, as she's afraid this will hurt the families. What do you think? Is this cause to deny herself the man she loves?

Jes Was Angry And Slapped Her Husband

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 13 May 2012 22:00:43 GMT

Jes and her husband have been married for a year, but she still lives with her parents while he still lives with his. They were planning on moving into their own place in a few months, but her husband met another woman and fell in love. He told her he wanted a divorce and she slapped him. Now they're having a cooling off period of one month and she's hoping for a miracle. What would you tell this woman?

Fay's Ex-Fiance' Is Sorry For His Abuse

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 09 May 2012 22:00:25 GMT

Fay was engaged to marry, but about a year ago she called it off. After a day of drinking, he lost his temper when she asked him not to sit on the couch in his wet swimsuit. After police were called by neighbors, a shaken Fay called the wedding off, kicked him out and began counseling. He received his own counseling, and a year later says he's sorry, still in counseling and wants to be the man she deserves. She asks: Can a person truly change? I gave my answer -- what do you say?

Kim Doesn't Like Her Friend Helping A Battered Woman

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 06 May 2012 22:00:51 GMT

Kim has a 30 year old firefighter friend who always dates women with issues. Now he's befriended a woman who, for 8 years, was regularly beaten by her husband to the point of being hospitalized. She wants him to run away from the situation because this woman will latch onto him because he's so nice. What do you think of this?

Wealth's Boyfriend Doesn't Believe He Was Her First

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 14:00:46 GMT

Wealth has had plenty of boyfriends, but she wanted to wait for marriage before having sex. Then she met her present boyfriend who pressured her until she relented, who now accuses her of lying about it. He searched her call log on her phone and assumed she slept with her last boyfriend. He doesn't believe anything she says, and wonders why he wants to marry her because she is such a liar. She's confused because she has been totally honest with him and is now thinking of walking away. Good call?

Sandy Is Hanging On To A 25 Year Old Hurt

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 06:00:26 GMT

Sandy writes in to discuss her husband, who was her boyfriend whenever he held a knife to her throat. Now he's her husband, and it's 25 years later. She wants him to apologize, but he doesn't remember it happening. She says she gave up her life to keep him happy, and now she resents that he won't apologize. What do you think of this? Is this grounds for divorce 25 years later?

Paula's Friends Dislike Her Boyfriend

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 14:00:05 GMT

Paula thinks her situation is complicated. Her boyfriend is controlling and doesn't listen to what she says. She does, however, have to listen to him. He has hit her, and she has returned the hits. He calls her fat, ugly and a cheat, though she's been faithful. One minute he wants a child and the next he's calling her names. So I ask you, is this situation complicated? What would you tell her?

Kerry's Fiancee' Likes Everyone But Not Him

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 22:00:43 GMT

Kerry, 50, wonders about his 44 year old fiancee'. She's nice to everyone except him! She's angry all the time and throws things, and slams cabinets and drawers. In 3 years she has never kissed him passionately, but rather gives a chicken peck. Meanwhile, sex is minimal. They rent a house together, but he wonders how she could pay the rent alone, especially when she already borrows money from him. He asks if he should keep her or dump her?

Can Shona Change Her Narcissistic, Controlling Boyfriend?

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 06:06:38 GMT

Shona has been with her boyfriend for 3 years, living together for 2. He was charming at first, kind and loving to her children, too. Then he started comparing her to his exes and other women, saying she was overweight and she became self conscious. He started getting angry at her children saying they were taking her attention away from him and he made her give up her friends because they weren't good enough. She's afraid if she leaves he will seek revenge and besides she loves him so much she can't bear to leave. She asks what to do now?

Neeraj's Husband Spits On Her When He Gets Angry

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 17 Mar 2012 06:00:55 GMT

Neeraj is 36, her husband is 40 and he is abusive. He demands that they have a third child, which she doesn't want. He spits on her whenever he get angry or if he does not get his way. She asks what she should do to calm him down?

Brittany's Boyfriend Wants Her Homeschooled

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 06:00:46 GMT

Brittany is a teen mom, still living at home. Her boyfriend also lives with his parents and is now being homeschooled. He wants her to do the same because it will help him trust her. He says he doesn't trust her, although in the two years of dating she has never cheated on him. So what do you say? If she is homeschooled, will he trust her then, or is this an abusive relationship in the making? What would you advise this mom to do?