Dear Dr. Archer,
I am already in therapy because my problem has done a number on me. I have a burglar who is intruding in my father's and my place. I know who it is, because it can't be anyone else!
She conned my keys from me while we worked together. She gained access to my keys and had copies made, because there was no signs of forced entry.
Clothing in my size was repeatedly taken. Our apartments had new locks installed, plus they have several cameras. We've gone through two years of this, and I've only called the police four times to have their detectives help.
I was helpless after my screens had been taken. She would wear my things and return some and then take more -- really playing with my head.
She'd steal underwear and return new pairs that didn't fit and weren't mine. She knew everything about my life, and we shared work and friends, and she'd also steal pills and ask to come in and go to the bathroom.
On the fourth police visit, and after hundreds of dollars was spent on cameras and locks, the police sent me away for a psych evaluation, which I passed. I voluntarily opted for therapy on my own.
I texted her and civilly threatened to tell her husband and kids and things began to reappear, but not without proof on the camera. Police won't help me, and she's still getting in!
I can't afford a monthly security company, and I rent. I thought of hiring someone to give her a beating, but I can't do that. I'm more logical than that.
Helpless in Hell
The best advice I can give is to change the lock to your individual apartment AGAIN and don't let her con the keys from you. Keep them safe and with you at all times.
Also, put a pad-lock on your closet or the door to your room and don’t give anyone else a key, not even your dad. That way you’ll be sure no one is getting in.
I honestly don’t know if this is real or imagined, but by taking these steps you can make sure that she can’t get in. Then you must continue seeing your therapist and be sure to tell her everything you have told me so she can help.
You must understand that if you make it impossible for anyone to get in and the clothes are still going missing then there must be another reason. That’s what your therapist is there for -- to talk this out. I wish you well.