Dear Dr. Archer,
I recently found an ad on the Internet offering escort services and sexual favors for a certain price. The problem? The woman was my sister! I immediately asked her about it, because I am concerned for her safety and mental state to do such a thing.
I'm not sure what to do about it from this point on; she has avoided me for over two weeks and is both rude and defensive when we do talk. She says she no longer trusts me! How do I deal with this? Does she need psychiatric help?
No, your sister does not need psychiatric help. She may need a financial advisor, but not a psychiatrist.
Your sister was, no doubt, surprised, shocked and embarrassed by your discovery. Trust me, she was not expecting you to find her ad and now she's on the defensive. Why? Because she's afraid you would judge her, condemn her and possibly wonder about her mental state.
Talk to your sister, even if she's rude. Let her know you love her and if she needs a shoulder to lean on or an ear to listen, you're there for her. She's an adult who is responsible for her own decisions. You can remind her that you want her around for a long time, so to practice safe sex.
Also, let her know, that regardless of what she does for a profession you are there for her. And then, Teresa, drop it. Ask her to lunch just to have fun and bond. Do not bring up her source of income unless she brings it up first.
Be there for her but realize this is her life to live and this is her decision. She is your sister; love her unconditionally. Good luck.